Let Life Rub You The Right Way

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“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?”
― Rumi

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In our daily lives, we often find our selves irritated by the little things in life: the traffic light that makes us wait, a rude waiter, a mess in the kitchen that someone left for us, someone who just “rubs us the wrong way.” There’s no end to it. Rumi shows us there is another way. The inevitable frictions of life are unavoidable, but how we respond to them is firmly within our circle of influence.

We all know that a pearl is a response to irritation. But the oyster creates beauty from it and never whines. Can we be as wise as an oyster and do the same? The knife on a whetstone is irritated by the rubbing, but positioned at the right angle, the friction creates a fine razor edge. So can we hone  our rough edges,  if we change our position in relationship to the endless irritants that life gives us. We can let them rub us the right way.

What can you transform from irritation to inspiration today?

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Jalal ad-Din Muhammed Rumi was a 13th-century Persian poet, jurist, Islamic scholar, theologian, and Sufimystic. Rumi’s influence transcends national borders and ethnic divisions; people of all faiths and nations have greatly appreciated his spiritual legacy for the past seven centuries. His poems have been widely translated into many of the world’s languages and transposed into various formats. Rumi has been described as the “most popular poet” and the “best selling poet” in the United States.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

Hang Out With Wise Guys

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Let your home be a meeting place for the wise; dust yourself in the soil of their feet, and drink thirstily of their words.

-Rabbi Yose ben Yoezer

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A friend of mine, the poet Robert Bly, often talks about great writers emerging in groups, not singly. The implication is that by hanging out with other writers, they spark and inform each other, and produce better work than if they were working alone.

Now Im not sure if this is always the case for writers, but I know that one of the best ways to gain wisdom is to hang out with wise people. Rabbi Yose ben Yoezer urges us to make our home their meeting place, to roll in the dirt of their feet, and chug-a-lug their words! In other worlds, immerse ourselves in them. Who knows, maybe something will rub off!

The Hebrew word for wisdom, chochmah, is said to be a combination of the words for potential and being. The Potential to Be. If we are wise, we can see and realize our potential. If we are not, we will stay stuck in what we have always been. Maybe this is why we need to hang out with wise folks- to see their potential, and hopefully, let them see ours, even when we can’t see it ourselves.

Who brings wisdom into your life? Who sees your potential?

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Yose ben Yoezer (circa 164 BCE) was a rabbi of the early Maccabean period, possibly a disciple of Antigonus of Soko and member of the ascetic group known as the Hasidæans, though neither is certain. He belonged to a priestly family.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

At Peace With All

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“The first focus in life here on earth is to be at peace with all people.”

~  Joel Ben Abraham Shemariah

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Shalom, the all-purpose Hebrew word that is used as a hello and goodbye greeting, means peace. But the roots of the word also mean completeness, wholeness, health, welfare, safety, soundness, tranquility, prosperity, perfectness, fullness, rest, harmony, and the absence of agitation or discord. “Mah Shlomcha?” (for a man), or Mah Shlomeych?” (for a woman), means “How are you?” How is your peace, your welfare, your wholeness, your completeness?

This excerpt above from the will of Joel ben Avraham Shemariah prioritizes shalom with all people as our first focus. We can hear the echoes of “Love your neighbor as yourself ” here. What does it mean, what would our lives look like, if we first and foremost strove to be peaceful,  complete, whole, healthy, safe, sound, tranquil, prosperous, perfect, full, restful, harmonious, and looked out for the welfare of and avoided agitation or discord with everyone in our lives? Sounds like a mountainous way to live, but well worth the effort! It would take all our time, but nothing would be left to do! The World would be whole, and at peace.

How is your “peace” today?

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Rabbi Joel Ben Abraham Shemariah (died 1799), lived in Vilna, in what is now Lithuania. He is known for the teachings left in his will.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

 

 

Going Toward Your Loves

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“The things that you love in life, the things that bring you joy, the things that bring you blessing, the things that bring you love: go towards those things, live into those things, embrace those things…. Let’s surround ourselves with people who love us in our fullness, insha’allah!”

– Ibrahim Baba Farajaje

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Funny creatures that we are, we need to be reminded to love, to seek joy, to let ourselves be blessed. It’s easier most times to worry, to fret, to frown and put our head back into our work, to be consumed with the potential disaster of tomorrow and miss the present joys of today. I’ve met many a person who could easily express anger, sorrow or fear, but felt uncomfortable expressing too much happiness!

This is a learned response; no baby is born like this. But through years of learned anxiety, guilt or disappointment, we slowly settle for the safe, the sane and the mundane. Maybe it’s time for a little revolutionary action- expressing pure joy! Rumi reminds us:

“Today like every other day we wake up empty and afraid.

Don’t go to the study and start reading. Pick up the dulcimer.

Let the beauty we love be what we do.

There are hundreds of ways to kneel and kiss the ground.”

So let that email go, the garbage sit in the pail awhile longer, that task wait for a moment. Let’s be the beauty we love, and move into life from that place.

What can you do today to run toward joy?

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Dr. Ibrahim Baba Farajaje (1953-2016) was a pioneer in building bridges across bountaries that usually separate people. Deeply learned in Islam and Sufism, in Judaism and Jewish mysticism, in Christianity and Buddhism, fluent in 16 lauguages, equally at home in Istanbul, Turkey and Berkeley, California, he travelled the world for decades, leading studies, producing videos, and delivering papers on the interrelatedness of the world’s spiritual traditions as they play out through the rich diversity of the world’s cultural contexts.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

Patience and Persistence

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“Knowing trees, I understand the meaning of patience. Knowing grass, I can appreciate persistence.”

-Hal Borland

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I once asked a friend what the difference between ignorance and apathy was. He replied, “I don’t know and I don’t care.” The difference between patience and persistence I think, is the difference between waiting and acting. The patient one waits and sees and trusts- it’s an act of faith, in a way.  The persistent one makes attempt after attempt, working every angle, holding on to ground gained, and after falling down 6 times, gets up for the 7th.

They are related, but not the same. Patience is more passive and receptive, persistence more active and outward bound. Both can achieve great things.They are complements to each other.

In our spiritual lives, sometimes we need the repeated attempts of the persistent spirit, that keeps on keeping on. “G!D helps those that help themselves”.  And on some days we need that great patience that waits. As the Course in Miracles teaches, “The miracle comes quietly into the mind that stops an instant and is still.” Both have their place and time.

Where do you need to practice patience today? Where do you need to persist?

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Harold “Hal” Glen Borland (May 14, 1900 – February 22, 1978) was a well-known American author, journalist and naturalist. In addition to writing many non-fiction and fiction books about the outdoors, he was a staff writer and editorialist for The New York Times.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

Gossip As Bad As Murder?

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“For these things a person suffers in this world and loses their place in the world to come: idolatry, adultery, and murder; and evil tongue is equal to them all.”

-(Talmud Yerushalmi Peah 1:1 )

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“It’s just words!”  How many times have we heard, or used that phrase? Meaning, it doesn’t matter. Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me. Or can they?

The rabbis of the Talmud considered telling harmful tales about someones failings, i.e. gossip, as a transgression equal to a combination of idolatry, sexual mayhem, and murder. Really? Gossip seems like a such a little sin, dishing a little dirt on someone else’s life. Not admirable, but as serious as those biggies together? This is not lies and slander, which is covered elsewhere. This is sharing things about someone that while negative, are true.

There’s always a story. In this one, a man went about the community telling tales about the rabbi’s failings. Later, he began to feel remorse. He went to the rabbi and begged his forgiveness, asking what he could do to make it right. The rabbi told the man, “Take a feather pillow, open it on the hill in town, and scatter the feathers to the 4 winds.” The man as instructed. When he asked the rabbi if he was forgiven, the rabbi said, “First, go and gather the feathers back up again.” The man protested that his was impossible, the feathers were scattered to the whole world. “So is it with your words”, the rabbi spoke,  “you can no more undo the damage of your words than you can recollect the feathers.”

Just words? Words brought the world into being in the Creation stories! Reputations have been ruined, people have committed suicide or killed others because of spoken words that were better kept unspoken. Someone’s story belongs to them, not us. We can use our words to create justice or injustice in the world. May ALL of our words be just words.

How can you use your words to create justice?

The Jerusalem Talmud (Talmud Yerushalmi), also known as the Palestinian Talmud or Talmuda de-Eretz Yisrael (Talmud of the Land of Israel), is a collection of Rabbinic notes on the 2nd-century Jewish oral tradition known as the Mishnah.  The Jerusalem Talmud was compiled in the Land of Israel during the 4th-5th centuries CE, then divided between the Byzantine provinces of Palaestina Prima and Palaestina Secunda. The Jerusalem Talmud predates its counterpart, the Babylonian Talmud (also known as the Talmud Bavli), by about 200 years and is written in both Hebrew and Jewish Palestinian Aramaic.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, artist, builder, naturalist, consultant, and EcoKosher mashgiach. He lives with his wife Sara in western Massachusetts, where he serves as head groundskeeper and resident singer songwriter. Send him your favorite teaching quote for commentary. He can be reached at joe.laur@joelaur.com.

Let Life Take Your Breath Away

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“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away.”

-George Carlin

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Comics can be rabbis too, and humor can carry great teachings. This missive from the late great George Carlin is one of my favorites. It reminds us to spend more time in wonder and awe (the word awe is related to the word awareness); to re-member ( as in putting the pieces together) who we are and what we are part of.

The Psalmist sang, “Ma Gadlu ma’asecha Yah, Meod amku mach’she’votekha. How great are your works Yah! How deep are your thoughts!” We can fill ourselves with awe if we just  take a moment to drink in the wonder around us, whether we are at the edge of the Grand Canyon or looking at the intricate structure of a cut flower on our table. The natural world (which we are part of, not separate from), holds amazement before us always. Even the face of the person passing by us is a wonder greater than the moon and stars if we really see what we are looking at.

So take a little break right now, and look around until you find something that fills you with awe. Awe-Full. Quite a different meaning than what we usually settle for, yes?

What fills you with awe and takes your breath away today?

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George Denis Patrick Carlin (May 12, 1937 – June 22, 2008) was an American stand-up comedian, actor, social criticand author. Carlin was noted for his black comedy and his thoughts on politics, the English language, psychology, religion, and various taboo subjects.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

Saying “No” to Ourselves 

“Self-respect is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows
with the ability to say no to oneself.”
― Abraham Joshua Heschel

 

Abraham Joshua Heschel (January 11, 1907 – December 23, 1972) was a Polish-born American rabbi and one of the leading Jewish theologians and Jewish philosophers of the 20th century. Heschel, a professor of Jewish mysticism at the Jewish Theological Seminary of America, authored a number of widely read books on Jewish philosophy and was active in the American Civil Rights movement.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

Thank You Is Enough

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“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, ‘Thank You,’ that would suffice.”
― Meister Eckhart

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One of my teachers used to say that an “attitude of gratitude” was the fastest way into Divine Presence. Meister Eckhart says that if “thanks” is the only prayer that ever passes our lips, it’s enough! Pretty radical stuff, given that there are millions of intricate prayers across thousands of faith paths covering every topic imaginable to the human soul.

Prayers for help, redemption, blessings, praise, intercession, relief; the list goes on and on. What makes a simple prayer of thanks so all encompassing?

It may be that in order to give thanks, we need to pause and reflect on what’s good around us or within us. To notice grace, a gift, a blessing in the moment. No matter how brief, a moment spent in gratitude is a moment of perfection, a moment spent acknowledging, “This is Good.”

Prayer is more important for what it does to us than what it gets for us. We can never be certain that prayer will effect any change out in the world. But we can be certain that it will effect change within us. And when we pause and open our eyes to what we have to be grateful for, even for a split second. we are at peace.  And Peace is the Whole.

What can you give thanks for, right here and right now?

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Eckhart von Hochheim (c. 1260 – c. 1328), commonly known as Meister Eckhart , was a German theologian, philosopher and mystic, born near Gotha, in the Landgraviate of Thuringia in the Holy Roman Empire.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.

Plant Your Tree Before Greeting the Messiah!

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“If you have a sapling in your hand, and someone should say to you that the Messiah has come, stay and complete the planting, and then go to greet the Messiah.”

Rabbi Yohanan ben Zakkai (Avot de Rabbi Nathan, 31b).

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All of us, in some way, at some time in our life, have been waiting for the Messiah to come. Whether it’s a political candidate we hope is The One, or our True Love to arrive and take us to the Promised Land, or the right job, guru, advisor, boss, buddy to show up, we have all been “Waiting for Godot” in some way, shape, or form.

Rabbi Yohanan’s words may come as a shock then. Plant the tree and then greet the Messiah? The one we’ve been waiting for our whole lives? How can that be right?

First, Reb Yohanan’s words are about hearing that the Messiah has arrived. We hear many things every day that just aren’t so. Why leave our “tree” unattended, our task unfinished   while we run after every rumor?  Secondly, if we are engaged in an important task, “planting a tree”; involved in restorative, renewing work, shouldn’t we follow it through? If it really is the Messiah arriving, isn’t this what they would want anyway, to pursue our unique mission and purpose? If it really is the Messiah, they will wait for us to finish the  Task! And third, once we have “planted our tree”, discharged our sacred work, we can turn with full mind, body, and soul to Greet the One without distraction.

What if our planting that particular “tree” is the final task that actually brings “the Messiah”? What if the “Messiah”  is everyone we meet, and we can greet each other as such. And isn’t it fitting to welcome the “Messiah” in each other into a verdant garden full of “trees”?

What tree can you plant today to create the garden worthy of the Messiah?

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Yohanan ben Zakkai (30 BCE – 90 CE),also known as Johanan B. Zakkai, or in short Ribaz, was one of the tannaim, an important Jewish sage in the era of the Second Temple, and a primary contributor to the core text of Rabbinical Judaism, the Mishnah. He is widely regarded as one of the most important Jewish figures of his time.

Joe Laur is a father, husband, naturalist, executive, consultant, and a lowly rabbinic student. He can be reached at joe.laur@godsdog.net.